While folding laundry this afternoon, I came across a new VH1 show called, "I Married A...."
A show that chronicles the lives of individuals that are in very unconventional relationships.
I'm a type A, anal retentive, OCD, cleaning obsessed control freak, and Brian's idea of being prepared is having clean underwear - that's about as unconventional as I get....
So back to the show.....
As I folded my husband's clean underwear and t-shirts, I watched the following couple with my mouth agape and one thought running over and over in my mind:
"What the F*CK?"
Apparently this couple is married, are both considered heterosexual, yet he is a gay porn star. A straight gay porn star. And she is ok with it.
This prompted me to run downstairs to use my husband as a little research project.
"Honey, can a man have sex with another man if he isn't gay? Can a guy take it up the a*s and still be straight?"
Again, I get shot the look of criminal insanity. That's happening a lot around here lately.
After the look of criminal insanity, he replies: "I don't know what the hell you're watching up there, but the answer is no."
I wanted throw this question out to you - is it possible to be "Gay for Pay?" Can a straight man get and maintain an erection, engage in sex with another man, and still be a straight man?
Ladies, quick, go ask your husband. I'm guessing you'll get the criminally insane look as well.
My take - I say both hubby and wife are in denial. If a man can engage in consensual sexual activity with another man, my opinion is that he is not straight. As Phoebe from Friends once sang:
"Sometimes men love women, and sometimes men love men. And then there are bi-sexuals but some just say they're kidding themselves......"
There are some that believe that sexual preference is complex - that preference is not a black and white issue. Some believe that sexual preference is a sliding scale with straight at one end and gay at the other with a whole bunch of other stuff to fill the middle. Sort of gay, sort of straight, gay with straight tendencies and vice versa. Again, I disagree. You either prefer men or you prefer women. Bi-sexuality is just a bridge that leads to one or the other.