Monday, April 23, 2012

Reworked.

So I went ahead and quit Weight Watchers.

I've been plugging away at it for some time now with little to no visible results.  If you're familiar with Weight Watchers, then you're aware that they recently changed how their program works.  I started Weight Watchers over ten years ago - before they changed the program and before Jennifer Hudson was singing their praises.  The original program worked for me. The original program REALLY worked for me.  The new program which has altered the point values for food and altered how many points are allotted per day per person just hasn't been cutting it. 

I loved the support of attending meetings each week and socializing with the ladies there, however, as time has passed I've realized that I don't have too much in common with these ladies.  When I first joined, most women were like me.  On average, most women were looking to lose 20, 30, 40, 50 lbs.  There were a few very obese women sprinkled in the crowd, but for the most part, it was women that somehow lost their way on the eating right and exercising path and caught it before it got way too out of control. Now, 10 years later, the crowd is filled with extremely obese women who consider walking up a flight of stairs their daily workout.

Now, I have nothing against these women. Kudos to them for deciding to do something about their weight.  I find their journey inspirational, but I just can't relate.

I've decided to take another route.  Instead of focusing on points and low-fat, no fat, skim and whatnot, I've decided to take on a bigger challenge on how I eat and how I view food.  I vowed to stop eating processed foods and to pay more attention to labels.  I've cut out all artificial crap, all the preservatives, and pretty much anything that has an ingredient list of more than five ingredients.  I'm forcing myself to ask the question, "where did this food come from," and "do I really want to eat this?" 

I figure that if I eat as nature intended me to eat and continue to remain active and healthy - my weight will navigate itself to where it should be.

Hopefully.....

Tuesday, April 3, 2012

It's A B*tch

I'm not fond of being lied to.

I really don't think anyone is fond of being lied to.

Lies come in various different wrapping. They can be wrapped obviously with bright colored paper and obnoxious cascading ribbon and extended directly into your face which makes it hard to miss them (unless your blind of course, but for the purpose of this blog post let's all pretend we are not vision impaired). These lies you don't miss. You can see them coming a mile away. For example: you're dating a cheater. You know he's a cheater because you've caught him cheating multiple times in the past, and you know he's a liar because you've caught him lying over and over again. He presents you with yet ANOTHER lie - he has no idea how female underwear ended up in his car/apartment/hand, WHATEVER. This lie is one of those lies that is wrapped in hot pink paper with a huge bow on it. The only LOGICAL explanation is the explanation that is most logical. He's cheating. Again.

Yes, I've actually been in this situation, however, I chose to ignore those bright colored lie packages over and over again until one finally dropped on my head and knocked me out cold (not literally of course). I consider it my own fault that I stayed in a relationship despite being offered these bright colored packages. Yes, he was a jerk - but I was a fool to ignore the LOGICAL explanations.

On the flip side, lies can also be disguised and hidden. You come across them when you least expect it and WHAM! You're completely blindsided by something you didn't expect and didn't see coming. I feel these lies are the worse because they plant small seeds of doubt in your mind that will ultimately lead to trust issues and discord between two people. Whether the lie was intentional or merely an act of omission (sometimes categorized as NOT being a lie, but is a lie just the same) they are detrimental to any relationship. What you feel may not be a "big deal," to you, could be a huge deal to someone else. It's usually not what you're lying about that is the worst thing, it's usually the fact that you feel the need to lie in the first place that makes the other person feel betrayed and underminded. It makes the other person question your actions and question every word that comes out of your mouth from here on in. It makes the other person want to scheme, flip the script, and create an environment where the original lie teller becomes the person being lied to.

Like I said, most people don't like being lied to and don't realize how much their actions have hurt other people until the same thing happens to them and they too experience that sinking feeling that happens in your stomach when you realize that someone might not be exactly who you thought they were.

It's called payback people. And although two wrongs don't make a right, and it's the Un-Christian thing to do (especially during Lent - Yikes!) it feels really good to hurt someone's feelings when they've hurt yours.

Agree? Disagree? Your thoughts?