Tuesday, April 3, 2012

It's A B*tch

I'm not fond of being lied to.

I really don't think anyone is fond of being lied to.

Lies come in various different wrapping. They can be wrapped obviously with bright colored paper and obnoxious cascading ribbon and extended directly into your face which makes it hard to miss them (unless your blind of course, but for the purpose of this blog post let's all pretend we are not vision impaired). These lies you don't miss. You can see them coming a mile away. For example: you're dating a cheater. You know he's a cheater because you've caught him cheating multiple times in the past, and you know he's a liar because you've caught him lying over and over again. He presents you with yet ANOTHER lie - he has no idea how female underwear ended up in his car/apartment/hand, WHATEVER. This lie is one of those lies that is wrapped in hot pink paper with a huge bow on it. The only LOGICAL explanation is the explanation that is most logical. He's cheating. Again.

Yes, I've actually been in this situation, however, I chose to ignore those bright colored lie packages over and over again until one finally dropped on my head and knocked me out cold (not literally of course). I consider it my own fault that I stayed in a relationship despite being offered these bright colored packages. Yes, he was a jerk - but I was a fool to ignore the LOGICAL explanations.

On the flip side, lies can also be disguised and hidden. You come across them when you least expect it and WHAM! You're completely blindsided by something you didn't expect and didn't see coming. I feel these lies are the worse because they plant small seeds of doubt in your mind that will ultimately lead to trust issues and discord between two people. Whether the lie was intentional or merely an act of omission (sometimes categorized as NOT being a lie, but is a lie just the same) they are detrimental to any relationship. What you feel may not be a "big deal," to you, could be a huge deal to someone else. It's usually not what you're lying about that is the worst thing, it's usually the fact that you feel the need to lie in the first place that makes the other person feel betrayed and underminded. It makes the other person question your actions and question every word that comes out of your mouth from here on in. It makes the other person want to scheme, flip the script, and create an environment where the original lie teller becomes the person being lied to.

Like I said, most people don't like being lied to and don't realize how much their actions have hurt other people until the same thing happens to them and they too experience that sinking feeling that happens in your stomach when you realize that someone might not be exactly who you thought they were.

It's called payback people. And although two wrongs don't make a right, and it's the Un-Christian thing to do (especially during Lent - Yikes!) it feels really good to hurt someone's feelings when they've hurt yours.

Agree? Disagree? Your thoughts?


  1. Uh oh! I have a feeling in the bottom of my stomach that you may have been hurt by a terrible liar! I HATE liars and don't understand WHY people feel the need to do it - even if you're trying to protect me!
    I definitely agree that payback can feel kinda good - people learn from experience, right? But I have to say that even when payback does occur, I end up feeling kinda guilty about it. I try to talk myself into being the "bigger person" and walk away or just sit quietly - although that doesn't always happen!

  2. :( Not fun Sia....for the record I have not lied to you. I was recently lied to by a friend as well, it was a small white lie, she has no idea I know, but it annoyed the hell out of me and to be honest I don't have the energy right now to deal with it. But yes...it has changed things in my mind... definitely changed things. Nothing good comes from lying.

  3. Oh UGH! I'm so sorry about whatever prompted this post. Lying sucks.

  4. I hope everything is ok. Liars suck. Plain and simple!

  5. My mom always says.... Karma is a bitch. So whomever lied to you has it coming!!! :)

  6. Hehe, I have to agree with you. Even though I know it's wrong, it give you a certain amount of pleasure to see the other person suffer. They had it coming! :)